Keeping options open dating
You know, that person you dated for a little while, but never really cut ties with.Maybe you periodically check in with them, just to see how they’re doing, or keep an eye on their Facebook relationship status to see if they’re still available.
When I broke up with my college boyfriend, we had an explicit conversation about how he had kept me around as a backup option for a year after we stopped dating.The best time to keep dating is when you find yourself falling in love with one man. It’s not when you learn the rules for getting the love you want. You’re attracted to him, you enjoy each other’s company, you’re compatible, and you even like each other’s quirks.You should pull the plug on your profile and stop communicating with other men, right? Devoting all your time and attention to any one man before he asks for the commitment you want can actually slow the process down.Maybe they’re the person you’re interested in, but not for the immediate future.Maybe you see yourself with them five years down the line, when you’re ready to settle, and hopefully they feel the same way, too.