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In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.
In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.
His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.
For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.
Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to.
For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.
It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.
We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).
I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there. As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here.
As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading.